We have arrived at the time of year when so many social media feeds get flooded with images of bright eyed children in freshly pressed school uniforms holding little chalkboards announcing that it’s the first day of school. This rite of passage for so many parents can be so devastating to witness for those who do not have children.

If you are finding yourself navigating a mixture of emotions – sadness, jealousy, or even anger – please know that you are not alone. This is a really triggering time for so many people. Here are some tips to help you get through it.

1. Set Social Media Boundaries

You don’t have to log on for a few days. It may help to take some time off from all your channels. Many people find this to be a really refreshing thing to do from time to time and when you know you are likely to see images you will find upsetting, all the more reason to have a little detox if you can.

There is also the option of muting or unfollowing accounts temporarily if you want to. You get to chose how you interact with your contacts on social media and you can curate your experience in the way that make you most comfortable.

2. Acknowledge Your Feelings

You may find yourself feeling emotions that might not square with your intellectual side. Feeling sad or jealous at seeing all these images doesn’t mean that you don’t also feel happy for the people in your life who are sending their children off to school. You can have both feelings at the same time and that is totally normal. It’s OK to be upset. Don’t judge yourself. Infertility can bring a deep sense of mourning experiences you wish you can have and seeing others get to have those experiences can be a painful reminder.

3. Connect with Supportive Communities

Surround yourself with people who understand your struggle. Whether it’s a support group, online forum, or close friends who are aware of your situation, having a community can make a significant difference. Sharing your feelings and hearing others’ stories can provide comfort and remind you that you’re not alone.

4. Remember That Social Media Isn’t The Whole Story

While this might be challenging, try to remind yourself that everyone has their own struggles, even those who seem to have everything you desire. You likely have an easier path with something that your friends may struggle with. Acknowledging that people may post their highlights while dealing with their own hardships can help you feel less isolated. It doesn’t diminish your pain, but it can help shift your perspective.

For every picture of a smiling child and a beautiful sunset on social media, there are likely dozens of cranky faces and cloudy days on that camera roll.

Coping with the influx of back-to-school posts while dealing with infertility is undoubtedly challenging. Remember that it’s okay to feel what you are feeling, to take breaks, and to prioritize your well-being. Be gentle with yourself during this time. Your journey is unique, and while social media can be a painful reminder of what you are missing, it doesn’t define your worth or the possibilities that lie ahead.

Your path is your own, and it’s okay to protect your heart and mind as you navigate it. Whether that means taking a break from social media, surrounding yourself with supportive people, or finding solace in self-care, do what feels right for you. Your feelings are valid, and you are not alone.